Krishna Wisdom

Top Menu

Main Menu

  • Home
  • FAQs
  • Free wisdom ebooks
  • Discuss philosophy
    • Questions archive
    • Ask a question
  • Wisdom Blog
  • Find Us
    • Bhaktivedanta Manor, Watford
    • UK Groups

logo

Krishna Wisdom

  • Home
  • FAQs
  • Free wisdom ebooks
    • IQ EQ SQ - Spiritual Quotient

      May 13, 2017
      0
    • Tattva

      May 13, 2017
      0
    • Gita Life

      May 13, 2017
      0
    • Bhakti Life

      May 13, 2017
      0
  • Discuss philosophy
    • Questions archive
    • Ask a question
  • Wisdom Blog
  • Find Us
    • Bhaktivedanta Manor, Watford
    • UK Groups
Practical Spirituality
Home›Practical Spirituality›This one thing will solve your relationship problem

This one thing will solve your relationship problem

By Apprentice Monk
July 9, 2016
202
0
Share:

I came across this quote and it triggered a series of thoughts in my mind on how people approach relationships, and why they sometimes work, or don’t work. It’s by Jim Rohn.

The greatest gift you can give to somebody is your own personal development. I used to say, “If you will take care of me, I will take care of you.” Now I say, “I will take care of me for you if you will take care of you for me

Usually a relationship falls into four predominant categories:

  1. You’re only concerned about yourself, and you have a partner to fulfill your emotional and physical needs
  2. You’re all “crazy in love” and all you’re concerned about is your partner, and you sometimes even neglect yourself
  3. You look after your partner because they fulfill your needs, and you should therefore fulfill their needs too. This is the typical “give to get” relationship.
  4. You look after yourself and take responsibility for your own happiness, and you help your partner out too when they are in need.

It’s a no-brainer that the first one doesn’t work. It can go on for sometime if you both are in for the same reason, but if you’re a serious guy or girl, you better solve your real problems that created this need, and move on and do something more worthwhile with your life.

The second one funny enough, doesn’t work either because you drain your partner and suck the life out of him or her by giving them so much and making them so indebted to you that they usually end up frustrated and overburdened and split up. And then you’re thinking – “Hey, I did everything for you, and still you were so ungrateful”. Bah!

The give to get relationship won’t work either. It’s pretty sad, but unfortunately most relationships now are of this nature. If you give to get, your expectations are always increasing and the other person never gives as much as you do. Yeah, right!

The fourth relationship is what is actually selfless and works best. If you are emotionally healthy and satisfied and are not dependent on someone to provide it for you, then you can give your best to your partner too. They feel happy, protected and free in your company and you become their source of inspiration. Your lively nature becomes their source of admiration, and slowly they catch it too.

In fact, you will usually click with a partner with a similar motivation.

Did you find this helpful? Let me know in the comments below…

Tagscareloverelationship
Previous Article

Reflections on love

Next Article

Brain Dead

Share:

Apprentice Monk

Radha Govinda has been living as a monk at Bhaktivedanta Manor for over 8 years now, and is a musician, motivational speaker and a writer. He likes sharing inspirational stories and wisdom from the ancient East and has a passion to encourage people to take up spritual practices. He holds a Master's degree in Mechatronics and worked in Control Systems engineering for Fluor before deciding to take up spiritual life full time as a monk in 2009. He now travels around the country sharing his experiences with people interested in yoga and spirituality.

Related articles More from author

  • Wisdom tube

    The Spirituality Quest 3: What is meditation?

    August 10, 2018
    By Apprentice Monk
  • Practical Spirituality

    How to be amazing at new conversations

    January 11, 2017
    By Apprentice Monk
  • Bhagavad Gita wisdom

    The sex obsession

    February 25, 2017
    By Chaitanya Charan
  • Science corner

    “You are the universe”

    October 28, 2016
    By Researcher Ryan
  • Reflections

    Reflections on love

    May 24, 2016
    By Apprentice Monk
  • Practical Spirituality

    How not to get angry when you want to!

    September 15, 2016
    By Apprentice Monk

Leave a reply Cancel reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

Recommended for you

  • Science corner

    Brain Dead

  • Reflections

    Sensitively strong

  • Books for download

    Gita Life

Feeling inquisitive?

Ask a question and allow us to scratch your philosophical itch and bring you some peace!


 

Post Categories

Quiz and Courses

EventsInteractive & Quiz

Mind Body Soul ONLINE EVENT

  • IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

    By Apprentice Monk
    December 1, 2018

Timeline

  • February 7, 2021

    Mind Body Soul ONLINE EVENT

  • October 18, 2019

    Facing Your Fears: Simple Steps to Overcome Fear

  • April 24, 2019

    A Starving Bird in a Polished Cage

  • April 12, 2019

    Spiritual Emotion

  • March 29, 2019

    See With Spiritual Eyes

  • Recent

  • Popular

  • Comments

  • Mind Body Soul ONLINE EVENT

    By Radha Govinda das
    February 7, 2021
  • Facing Your Fears: Simple Steps to Overcome Fear

    By Nikhil Gohil
    October 18, 2019
  • A Starving Bird in a Polished Cage

    By Nikhil Gohil
    April 24, 2019
  • Spiritual Emotion

    By Nikhil Gohil
    April 12, 2019
  • See With Spiritual Eyes

    By Nikhil Gohil
    March 29, 2019
  • The happiness quotient quiz

    By Apprentice Monk
    March 26, 2017
  • IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

    By Apprentice Monk
    December 1, 2018
  • How not to meditate

    By Apprentice Monk
    November 30, 2016
  • These 3 secrets of meditation will transform your life

    By Apprentice Monk
    April 25, 2017
  • How not to get angry when you want to!

    By Apprentice Monk
    September 15, 2016
  • Adi
    on
    February 15, 2021

    How to be amazing at new conversations

  • Radha Govinda das
    on
    February 14, 2021

    IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

  • Radha Govinda das
    on
    February 14, 2021

    IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

  • Karl Lowther
    on
    January 18, 2021

    IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

  • James
    on
    October 27, 2020

    IN ESSENCE: An online course – Soul, Karma, Reincarnation, Meditation, Yoga and Relationships

Tag Cloud

animated (3) animation (3) atheism (3) atheist (3) bhagavad (9) body (5) care (2) cartoon (3) consciousness (3) death (3) earth (2) ebook (4) free (4) frustration (2) gita (10) god (7) happiness (3) hare (4) heart (2) karma (6) krishna (12) life (12) love (16) lust (2) mantra (3) meditation (7) mind (6) peace (5) philosophy (3) problems (2) reincarnation (7) relationship (5) relationships (2) retreat (6) science (6) scriptures (2) sex (3) soul (12) spiritual (18) spirituality (11) suffering (2) vedas (2) wisdom (9) world (2) yoga (13)

What is Krishna Wisdom?

Krishna Wisdom is a spiritual initiative based at Bhaktivedanta Manor, working in collaboration with School of Bhakti that is aimed at providing spiritual wisdom to seekers of spirituality and philosophy.

We believe that ‘Change begins within’ and hence, an inner transformation precedes universal betterment.

Our aim is to provide knowledge and wisdom of spiritual matters through events, music, courses and most of all – love and spiritual friendship.

© Krishna Wisdom, School of Bhakti, Bhaktivedanta Manor, 2020
This site uses cookies & complies with GDPR: View our cookies, data protection and privacy policy here